Style From the Inside Out

Welcome Spring! The daffodils and tulips are in bloom.

April showers. May flowers.

A new season of color, style and fashion crushes.

Floral dresses. Pastel handbags. Ballet flats, wedges, sparkly sandals. Sunglasses.

As the days get warmer, our hearts beat faster.

Your inner fashionista is calling you, “I must shop now”.

We can hardly contain ourselves.

But wait!

Before you run to Saks Fifth Avenue, your favorite online shopping site, or that new boutique in town, walk to your closet.

Open the door.

Take a peek inside.

How much room do you have in your closet for your new spring wardrobe?

Is there lots of wide-open space for your new things?

Or are your clothes and accessories jammed into every corner?

Consider this: before you make a beeline for the shoe department, first decide what to do with what is already there so you can make room for the new.

It’s time assess, purge and renew.

Feng shui expert, and best selling author of Feng Shui Your Life, Jayme Barrett tell us that if we want to bring more prosperity and freedom into our lives it is important to make room.

Clothes closets are the best place to begin to let go of what no longer works for us.

Spring is the best season to lighten up and start fresh.

Consider that the clothes closet is a metaphor for life. If it is filled to capacity how do you expect to bring new business, new love, more prosperity and joy into your life?

When you want to attract new opportunities you must make room.

Time to go into the closet.

Ask yourself, how many secrets does your closet hide? How many size 6 pants are you holding onto thinking that someday they may fit you, even though you are now a size 10?

What if you could let them go and be proud of who you are now?

Ask yourself, “Which of the items in this closet keep me stuck in a past that is over and done with?”

The task of closet cleaning may seem daunting at first but just like in your business the process is a snap if you have a plan and a strategy for success.

It begins with a decision to just do it.

Here are 7 spring closet clearing tips to get you started.

Start small. Review one section of your closet at a time.

Make Yes, No and Maybe piles. This gives you time to think about your decisions.

Tip: Work with your “No” pile first and decide what to donate or consign. I have worked with Linda’s Stuff luxury consignors on eBay with good success or check out your local consignment store. Just know that consignment stores want only items in new or nearly new condition, no stains, rips or missing buttons.

Linda’s Stuff picks up your package at no charge and from time to time you get a nice check that will pay for a new pair of shoes.

Items for donation can be given to your local Big Brothers/ Big Sisters and Vietnam Vets both will pick up which makes the process easy and convenient and you get a tax-deduction. Or let Linda’s Stuff help you to decide which items to donate, they will give you a tax receipt.

Take the time to try on your Yes and Maybe items to assess the fit and styling. Your goal is for you to have only clothes that fit and make you look and feel fabulous.

Consider that you might need help completing this step. Ask a trusted friend, family member or hire an image consultant to give you feedback to decide what stays or goes. If you are good at assessing what works and what does not then you can do this on your own.

Check both fit and style for each item. Does it pass the fabulous fit and style test? This includes shoes. If the items you try on are or who you are now, then the item is a keeper. But if the shoes are too tight and your suit is dated, time to donate or consign your items. Add them to the NO pile.

This is a good time to take note of which pieces you want to look for on your shopping trip. Which key pieces will you want to update your wardrobe?

How will the pieces you desire work with what you already own?

This step can help you to avoid purchasing the same pair of black pants over and over again.

Invoke the One-Year Rule-If you haven’t used it in a year or more get rid of it.

Time to let it go. Donate or consign. In either case someone else will make use of what is just taking up space in your closets.

Keep sentimental items. There should always be a place in your closet for those items that make you happy or have a fond memory attached to them, even if you don’t really wear them. This one can be tricky so be rigorous about deciding what qualifies as an item for this category. If you are not sure, put the item in the Maybe pile for review.

Organize and devise your dream closet. Sort through the Maybe pile one more time, then with the items you are keeping, sort out your wardrobe by color and style, pairing items that go with other items. Get shelving and rolling storage bins, create a space in which you will easily and effortlessly be able to find every item.

Congratulations! You have made room for your new spring wardrobe and created space for new good things to come into your life.

Happy shopping.

Martial Arts Styles

There are countless martial arts styles from around the world, each with their own distinctive purpose and origin. In seeking out an effective means of self defense a potential student can look to a number of styles including Aikido, Kung fu, Kick Boxing, Mixed Martial Arts and Jujitsu. There are striking styles and grappling styles. There are sports and there are cultural fighting arts. Finding the right martial art, can take years, and cost tens of thousands of dollars. Someone interested in studying martial arts should have a general idea of the different martial art styles.

What Style of Martial Art is Best for You?

Start by asking yourself, do you want to compete or do you want self defense? Do you want to part of something more spiritual or more combative? Most schools offer a little of both, but you should know that the primary martial art style of the school sets the tone for the instruction. And if that primary martial art style is a sport or a cultural fighting art- it may seriously effect the self defense instruction.

Once you determine what you want to out of your training then it’s time to begin your search. Remember, each martial arts style or system has its specific purpose. For example, the style of Ninjitsu emphasizes stealth and concealment for a trained assassin, and is little use for someone who is looking to get into shape and not get mugged leaving the mall. Boxing while being a great sport to know is limited to hand striking and is not well rounded, but will build strength and help someone lose weight. Taekwondo is a Korean style of martial arts which is a very popular sport, but lacks throws and grapples necessary to push back an attacker or take the fight to the ground. Mixed martial arts styles are good but are still bound by rules that re designed for safety.

Establishing what you want will make selecting a martial arts style much easier, and it shortens the long list of styles available for a student to learn. If you’re just looking to lose weight the cardio kickboxing class at your neighborhood gym will probably be just what you need, but don’t expect what you have learned in that class to help you against a mugger or rapist. Kendo is another great style that will teach you how to fight like a Japanese samurai, and is great for fitness, spirit and attitude but you will look a little out of place taking your training sword on the train with you to work. If you’re interest is in self defense then you should look at combat oriented styles or systems that have been used in the industrial age. Aikido which was made popular by actor Steven Seagal is a fairly modern martial arts style. It is more about spiritual development than close combat. That old style of jujutsu may have worked against and armored samurai wielding a sword, but against a street thug wielding a box cutter it might not work so well.

Martial Arts and Self Defense
Studying a martial art or a combat sport is a lifestyle that requires a lot of time, training and dedication. Self defense however, is a skill, once understood, can remain effective long after you have stopped training. While most people don’t want to dedicate the time towards martial arts, every person should take a little time to learn basic self defense techniques.

It doesn’t matter what you seek of a martial art whether its fitness, self defense or even the desire to compete in a new sport it is time to begin your research. Resources are abounding on the Internet and in books at your local library. This will let you sort through the hype and get to the history.

A WORD OF WARNING

BEWARE OF THE INVENTOR OF A SYSTEM

There is a persistent myth that all martial arts styles are a product of ancient wisdom and are time tested. This is not always the cases with many styles like Yoseikan which takes many elements from more established styles like Judo and Jujutsu and others and has become its own style. Also be wary of anyone who says they’ve invent their own style that is superior to the rest. Just because a person has bounced a few years or was a cop or a soldier, doesn’t mean they know what works best for you or even how to teach it. What is taught in the military and in the police academies is based on a liability perspective (public perception- we don’t want our peace keepers to be too violent).

Most effective martial arts styles are a result of groups of people working together with the head of that organization usually getting the credit. Jigoro Kano is credited for founding that style, but he was helped by the Japanese government and the “Four Pillars of Judo” Tomita, Saigo, Yamashita and Yokoyama. Close quarters combat systems, lie those from the self defense company are a result of years of training and decades of research. It is impossible for one man to have the experience and the knowledge to dictate what works for everyone. Bruce Lee himself did not set out to establish a style or a system, but more of a way of thinking. How he trained was what worked best for him. How he thought was best for everybody.

Most founders have extensive training and backgrounds and black belt ranks in multiple, established martial arts styles. The lack of government regulation (especially in the united states) has no restriction on what is taught. It’s up to you to find out the who, what, when and where.

This Ain’t Hollywood

Also when choosing a martial arts style don’t use films as your guide even if a competent martial artist is involved with making the film. Film is entertainment. What you see on screen must evoke the right feeling and the right “look”. Fights on film are designed to entertain. If you think you are walking into a room full of bikers intent of killing you and you’re going to defeat them all without a scratch- then I have a “bridge to sell you”. But if acting is your thing, then yes go learn how to fight like “The Matrix”. A system of Kung fu may be the martial arts style you’re looking for.

At the end of the day, anyone can make their style sound good, but unless they have documented proof and some sort of lineage don’t waste your time. Remember, once you decide, your research doesn’t stop there. If there is some sort of intro program or “test drive” take advantage and ask yourself “Is this what I’m looking for?” and “Does this make sense to me?” Don’t be disrespectful, but don’t assume the person is an expert just because they say so. Listen to your instinct and you will be able to determine what martial art style is best for you.

Best Product for Curly Hair

People with curly hair have to ensure that they take a different approach to their hair care, and for sure it can be often little difficult in choosing the best product for curly hair. Even though, having a very beautiful and well manageable hair may be challenging to some extent, but one has to learn the options available for keeping specific type of hair and curls. One of the first things to figure out is, which type of hair you have. In most cases, the type of curl you have will determine the type of hair products will work effectively for you at a considerable cost. Though there are varieties of products available, but certain ones can seriously damage your hair either through over processing or through drying it out. If the natural hair balance is interfered with, it can be more difficult to correct the problem. Therefore, it is so necessary to learn how to manage your curls very well so as to prevent any unnecessary damages.

There are many styling products to choose from since most hair salons have plenty of pricey fantastic brands to promote as well as having drugstores shaves which are lined with dozens of colorful options to choose from. Due to the fact that every hair stylist has many favorite brands to choose from, then here are majorly three products which are great choices for curly hair style. First, is curl keeper; this particular product will give curls volume and bounce at the same time keeping the frizz under control. This product is water-based and clear, thus, there are no icky build up. To use it, you simply place a dollop in the palm of your hand, then flip your hair over while still wet and apply it from the root down. There is no need of blow-drying since your hair dries the product works. Something good about curl keeper is that, the formula reactivates with water.

Besides the curl keeper, there is another product known as, curl control cream which is specifically formulated for naturally curly hair. It only takes flyaway, resists any humid and helps in keeping unruly curls bounce under control. This one of the best choice as you does not need to go for any other products. Just using a dry towel to apply and the cream will start conditioning and then curl the hair. Lastly but not least is a curl enhancer. This product not only formulates tame fizz and creates extra shine, but it also intensifies more curls to create a heedful of stunning curls.

The use of these hair products designed specifically for curly hair can be very helpful in gaining control of your curly mane. In addition you have to use a gentle sulfate free shampoo and even a hydrated conditioner as you can experiment with a variety of styling aids for curly hair. Perhaps one of the best advice of all the above methods, is to go for a professional stylist who is specialized in curly hair to probably recommend you on the best product for your hair so as to avoid any dangers associated with side effects of any of the products used for curly hair.

What We Value and How We See the World – The Flow Style

Bill’s Perceptual Style is Flow. He perceives a world of unity and relationships in which every piece is connected to every other piece; a rich world where the parts fit together and support and nourish each other. He trusts in the flow of experience and believes what is important and necessary will emerge as a matter of course as it reflects the underlying harmony and cooperation inherent in the world. He knows the relationships he sees are not always obvious, especially to others, and that they reveal themselves only through his patient careful attention, and even then only slowly, in hints, intimations, and whispers.

Bill creates and sustains powerful but subtle relationships that form the glue of a community. He maintains the balance between the myriad elements of his world through constant attention and tending. His attention, while caring and supportive, is subtle and not readily apparent to those around him as he acts indirectly, behind the scenes, and outside the spotlight. Belonging is critical to him, but being the center of attention is not his style.

Moving smoothly and easily between daily events as his awareness emerges and recedes, Bill attends, in proper proportion, to events and people where connection and relationships require his attention. He builds connections steadily and patiently because he knows that relationships require time. He avoids pushing, demanding, or abrupt action because he trusts that what needs to be done will be done in its proper time.

Bill facilitates the development of an environment that is comfortable, one that fosters and encourages people. When his environment shifts away from cooperation, team building, and community, he quietly influences its realignment, putting his own personal needs aside if necessary. Bill has learned that taking care of himself is best done by taking care of the community within which he lives and works. While this is done with great care it is not passive, as he skillfully weaves a web of connections that binds those within his community closely to him.

Bill welcomes new events that support his traditions and values, and will adopt smoothly to change that he experiences as connected to the flow of his personal history. While he deeply distrusts arbitrary change, others often seek him out during times of upheaval because his skills are invaluable to restoring stability, coherence, and identity.

Bill uses his relational communities to gather and transmit informal information, after he has intuited what to pass on and what to withhold. He makes this determination through his understanding of what will most effectively and inconspicuously build alliances, promote participation, and instill commitment from people within his community. His information sharing is so careful and unobtrusive that others experience the connection within the community but are often unaware of his contribution to building it.

Bill often acts as a listening post to the members of his community without the need to give advice, pass judgment, or provide opinions. He will offer aid and assistance when asked but it takes the form of empathy and support rather than strategy and action plans. He encourages development and growth, and empathizes with those who are struggling. People respond to his personal engagement with them and the warmth and concern he shows them. Bill is rarely in a rush and always has time to interact with those who are troubled or just want to talk.

For Bill, the world is not a series of unrelated facts but a single whole full of patterns, impressions, and connections. He communicates his experience in stories that provide others with the necessary context but may alter or leave out factual points. His stories are a way to build personal connection and find common ground with others rather than a means to convey data and facts.

Bill is at his best smoothing the sharp edges of chaotic environments and erratic relationships. He builds a sense of cohesion within groups and creates a sense of group identity to which others willingly commit. He secures commitment to the community by thinking of others, making contact, doing favors, and staying in touch with all community members. It is important to him that outsiders accurately perceive community values, so he attends carefully to the image that his group projects and makes sure that it is consistent and appropriate.

His activities are ultimately focused on support and maintenance of his community. He is a keeper of community history and tradition and uses the history of the community to keep it grounded. He knows that understanding the past holds the key to providing continuity between the past, present, and future. He is the one who remembers everyone’s birthday, special occasions, and personal tidbits. He finds ways to stay in touch and often gives small meaningful gifts for no apparent special reason. These are his way of holding onto and building relationships and community.